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112339 No. 112339 ID: c0301e
So my biological father is an asshat; my mother honestly had shit for taste. Haven't talked to him since I was like 4 or 5, completely skipped out on child support, had a whole bunch of other kids (all with different women, skipped town soon after the birth of each, still living this way today) after the divorced, and, in general, is a shitty guy.
My wife doesn't have it much better. While her dad never actually touched her, her parents divorced because he was writing sex fantasies involving her. He also fell off the face of the earth after the divorce too. Even his own family can't find him.

We don't know if we want kids of our own yet but we do know, whether we do have kids or not, we will adopt sometime in the future. We don't want either of our father's names being passed on. So we got every family name form each side of our families and tried different combinations. Settled on one that does sound new-age as fuck but works.

As I found out this past week, people look offended when a guy is changing their last name. SSA office "Pam" was agitated and seemed offended that I would change my last name. Demanded that we have a "Name Change" order from our county court to do it, though this was not what the office told us on the phone (clerk on the phone said that we just needed our marriage cert and we could change it however we wished).

Went to the court house yesterday, filled out the form, and the clerk there had the same reaction as the SSA clerk. She kinda made it seem like there was a chance the judge wouldn't think not wanting my decedents to share my fathers surname was a good enough reason to sign off on the name change.

Why do people find it so offensive that a man would change their last name? Is it just because I'm trying to do this in a southern state?

I get that it is outside the norm but the reactions I got were totally unexpected.
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>> No. 112340 ID: 415c05
It probably has more to do with the fact that they don't want to do any work than the specific source of that work.
>> No. 112341 ID: a067fa
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> Is it just because I'm trying to do this in a southern state?
That is probably a very large part of it, considering historically the woman took the husbands name with marriage. I suspect if you were somewhere even slightly more liberal (or would it be a touch less conservative?) you wouldn't be hitting this issue.
Force Sensitive Weenie Dog also makes good point: people gonna people, and people are lazy, especially when working .gov jobs where its hard to get fired.

FWIW I think you have a perfectly fine reason to change your last name; feel free to guiltlessly ignore the opinions of anyone who thinks otherwise.
>> No. 112355 ID: c9fe43
>>112340
This. Just dealt with the DMV in a southern state (completely black run office) with a non-standard request (like your request is).

They really don't like having double or triple work and will lie to you to send you away


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