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113192 No. 113192 ID: 6bd11a
I don't want this to become a blog post, besides it isn't hard to figure out my IRL identity, and I have retained a lawyer for this as it seems clear that my wife was not at fault. Thusly, I may be vauge at times. This is a sort of warning so that other operators, wanna be operators, boogloo-ers, etc. are better prepared in life.

This past Thursday my wife was involved in a pretty horrible car wreck about 1.5m from home. She was on her way home from work when she got tboned and rolled a few times. Long short of everything, she needed to be cut out of the car with a saw and the JoL, and then flown to a hospital about an hour away. Surgury went well, and I should be able to take her home tomorrow. Docs think she will make a full recovery over the next 8 or so weeks.

I have seen some pretty horrible shit in my life. I worked farm labor before the Marine Corps, and saw people lose limbs to machinery there. In the Corps, while I never participated in combat myself, I transported wounded Marines, participated in their care, and handled a couple of dead bodies. In all of those previous times, even when I knew and cared about the victim, I managed to keep my composure and not lose my head.

I got the call about my wife's accident from a number I never saw before, I almost ignored it. When I arrived at the scene, and saw the mangled mess of her car, I couldn't keep my cool. I initially though there was no way she was alive, there wasn't enough car left. Even after I saw she was alive and concious, I couldn't think. EMT had me move out of the area while the firemen cut her out. The closet I got to her the whole time was right before they loaded her on to the helicopter and I got a chance to kiss her.

I didn't go into full hysterics, but I've never lost my cool in a stressful situation like that before...and I've been thinking about that.

If I die before my wife, I have set up a detailed will and set of instructions for both my wife and family. Life insurance will pay off the house and for my cremation, then my wife can go willy nilly witht the left overs. I even stipulated in an attached note that I expect at least 30days of strict victorian styled morning, with a demand that my wife get on tinder after the morning period because she is still alive and I fully expect her to live on and have a real life.

It has never once occured to me, "What if my wife dies first?". When I worked on the farms, I knew it was dangerous work, and I was prepared for that. Same thing with the Corps, I knew Marines can get fucked up and killed, and I was prepared for that. I was not prepared for my wife to get seriously injured or killed. My brain had never once run through that scenario. I was caught with my pants down, and I was useless (although I realize that even if my cool had been kept, the EMTs would have still wanted me out of their way).

I know not everyone on her has a spouce or significant other, but there are people in your life that you do care about. Take the time to think about, not what they would do without you, but what you would do without them. All relationships eventually end in some sort of trajedy (at the same time though, it is the journey, not the ending that counts, so that isn't an inditment agains having relationships).
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>> No. 113193 ID: 3e9ccc
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>I expect at least 30 days of strict Victorian styled mourning
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Sorry about your wife getting injured in a car crash and please don't take this the wrong way, but have you flipped your lid? Do people in the 21st Century still do that whole "wear black mourning clothes and veils" for displaying shows of grief? And if it's "strict" Victorian-style mourning, then it's for two years for widows. But I recommend you do not emulate the ludicrous mourning or funeral practices of the Victorians. Queen Victoria (granddaughter of mad King George III and Princess Victoria of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld) married her cousin Prince Albert of Saxe-Coburg and Gotha in 1840, where their children married into royal and noble families across the continent, spreading hemophilia in European royalty. After Albert's death in 1861, Victoria plunged into deep mourning, wearing black funeral clothes and avoided public appearances. She drove herself nuts with that dour stuff!

Victorian Mourning Etiquette:
Widows were expected to wear full mourning for two years. Everyone else presumably suffered less – for children mourning parents or vice versa the period of time was one year, for grandparents and siblings six months, for aunts and uncles two months, for great uncles and aunts six weeks, for first cousins four weeks. https://www.tchevalier.com/fallingangels/bckgrnd/mourning/

And for more insane Rules And Regulations Of Mourning In The Victorian Era...
https://www.thevintagenews.com/2016/05/28/39293-2/
>> No. 113194 ID: dcff13
>>113192
Fuck... I often joke, my wife can do a lot with $400,000. But being the one with the chronic incurable auto-immune disease, she's likely to die first (albeit still decades from now). Honestly not something I've given much thought to either.
I hope your missus has a speedy recovery.
>> No. 113197 ID: 7d76dc
>>113192
Damn man. Best wishes for the wife.

> I was caught with my pants down, and I was useless (although I realize that even if my cool had been kept, the EMTs would have still wanted me out of their way).

It's ok to lose your shit sometimes. I'm a bawling mess at funerals. I cried when I took my cat to get put down.

Try to stay busy and keep helping the wife. Lay off any alcohol. Going down the path of "what if's" will drive you nuts, so if you feel your mind going that way, watch some youtube fail videos or something.
>> No. 113201 ID: 8e4d38
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113201
At least she's okay. That's all that matters. I would absolutely 100% lose my shit dude.

My wife is the only thing in the world that's truly important to me anymore. People say that they couldn't live without their spouse, but I LITERALLY could not live without her and would go off the deep end.

I've got a big boy deployment coming that I need to have a proper will hashed out for. I don't really trust the automatic "wife gets everything" response I got from one of the post law guys.
>> No. 113208 ID: 136a5b
>>113194
SCA is the common one, but MS is the other likely option, one of those is a bit scarier than the other.

If it's SCA there is a really promising possibility of treatment with CRISPR in the relatively near future.
>> No. 113230 ID: 3297d5
Update on my wife:

>2 steel plates in her arm
>insurance is fighting us on the hospital stay (broken arm surgury is an outpatient procedure according to them, and low potassium after surgury is apparently not a reason for the hospital to keep her after surgury, eventhough the doctors made it very clear she wouldn't be released until her potassium was back to normal levels)
>insurance is NOT fighting us on the air ambulance bill. I was legit surprized by that.
>took over 30 days to get the crash report, and the officer must have been drunk when he was writing it. There are multiple mistakes on every page of it. Lawyer is aware of this.
>other driver was apparently doing 5 over the speedlimit, and 30 over the "safe speed for conditions"
>report says my wife was making an unsafe left turn, and the report is wrong about WHERE she was turning, by about 150'
>GAP coverage and Insurance both FINALLY came through, so my wife pulled 3k from her trust fund (her mom died of cancer, and was smart enought to set up trust funds to keep medicaid from eating her kids inheritance), and bought a replacement vehicle
>she is back to work fulltime
>> No. 113231 ID: 3297d5
Thank you all for the well wishes!

>>113193
Oh fully aware. It is mostly a joke.

>>113194
If she is probably going to go out before you, than make sure you make the time she has left as awesome as you can.

>>113197
I think I have cried for every pet I've ever had, when they die. This must be how elves feel about their humans in fantasy novels.

>>113201
Part of why my will is so detailed it because I have possesions that I know my wife doesn't want, but that some of my cousins and friends will want. Anyways, stay safe on your deployment.

>>113208
CRISPR is pretty awesome. If North American Ash trees are to be saved, very detailed genetic modification is going to be needed.
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>>113231
Thanks for the update. Hang in there!
>> No. 113233 ID: 7db4d4
Hope your woman heals up and makes a full recovery.


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